I thought this excerpt from an Abraham Hick's workshop was compelling. I think as parents, because we fear that the world wll be mean to our children if they do not conform to expectations, we try our hardest to raise children that do fit into the social and cultural norms of our class, society and culture. We do this to protect them. We want them to conform to our expectations too. Sometimes, though, in doing so, we push them out of alignment with their own strong inner guidance systems that they came into this world with.
"Parents don't want their children to make the wrong decisions, so they don't allow them to make the decision. And then the child becomes dependent, and then the parent resents that, and it gets off into a blameful thing early on. If you are encouraging children to do all that they can do -- and not squelching the natural eagerness that is within them, so that they can shine and thrive and show you and themselves how good they are at adapting to physical experience -- then everyone wins."
Excerpted from a workshop in Dallas, TX on Saturday, March 13th, 1999